By your logic, men who get divorced, can't please their wives and have pre-marital relations watch entourage or swingers. But in islam, all men are saints right? When will the double standard end?

Sounds like you would encourage and foster restrictions and removing the few freedoms women have in islam. Unfortunately for you, women are fully equal to men and have the inalienable right to use their mind to its full potential.

ssiddiqi80

Are you joking? Because if you are, then please let me know. I'll laugh hysterically with you. But if you're not, then please let me remind you of (or, alternatively, introduce you to) a few ideas: a) you referring to the women in the show as "sluts" is no different than non-Muslims referring to women who wear Hijab as "oppressed." (In other words, your comment does nothing for the the potential of attaining a sense of peace and understanding with non-Muslims in our country and the general prospect of cohabiting harmoniously with non-Muslims around the world. But if you're content with Muslims being rampantly slaughtered for what seems to the rational mind as no reason at all, or the persecution of Muslims all over the world as a consequence of the actions of a handful who claim to represent the Ummah in its entirety, then cool), b) there is a famous Hadith that reads: "If you want to criticize someone, first criticize yourself more than three times." I'm venturing to guess you didn't do that before you posted this message. But if you did, then my bad. c) on the Day of Judgment, each man/woman will only have him-/herself to answer for. A mother will not be able to intercede for her child and a husband will not be able to intercede for his wife. So instead of contemplating the disgrace behind how many men Carrie is simultaneously sleeping with or being aghast at Samantha's lesbian tendencies and wondering about the adverse impact this might heave on Muslim women, I highly recommend you concern youself with your own actions and behavior and how Those will play out on Judgment Day.

melissa711

wow, equally harsh!!! good points, caramellocutie! :)
i'm still in shock that he actually said those things... i hadn't encountered those type of words on this site yet! first time for everything... he's not such a NICEarabguy...

toronto_rocks

Yeah there is a way and you don't need no book for that, as most of you have pointed out that most of it is common sense anyway.

A- You should really stop letting these tabloid-style books dictate your feelings toward someone. Go with your gut instinct on this, when was the last time someone learned how to drive from a manual?

B-Quit leading the poor guy on, stop playing him for all he's worth I'm sure he has a heart too. You're looking to gather the right signs to get rid of him, while he is planning his life around you. That is just not right no matter how you look at it. Be brave and truthful at all times. Stop making him "feel" important when he's really not, just because you don't wanna be the one hurting him. Tell him straight up, don't lie to him and make silly excuses - that only complicates things. Don't wait for him to "grow on you". He'll move on, trust me. Don't wait for him to screw up just so that all the blame can easily be pinned on him and you can walk away with a clear conscience. After all no guy wants to waste his effort and his sanity over something that's never going to lead to any fulfilment, NOBODY is that special and I'm sure no one on this forum is an exception either.
Better to lose a lover than to love a loser!!! (my favorite new quote)
Heck maybe I'll write that book: "She's just not that into you". Look for it at your favorite bookstore.

hsiddiqie

I read the book cover-to-cover and it is pretty much common sense...........after the fact, but when you are in a relationship with someone that you really like and want things to work out with it's really hard, almost impossible to comprehend some of the things that are stated in the book. I think all women should read it, even if you don't need to take the pointers in it......at least you'll get a real kick out of it!

My question is: What kind of signs can we give to let a guy know that "She's just not that into you"!!!!!!!!!!

Eph123

I read this book a few months ago, and yeah I agree, its pretty much common sense. It gives examples of women making up excuses to explain a guy's behavior. I think everyone could relate to atleast one of their examples. :)