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Top 10 excuses by women who don?t wear the Hijab
Salaams All
This list has been compiled after research and is not intended to offend or insult anyone. After reading them it is possible to reach ones own conclusions.
1. Friends will reject me
The people I hang around with and really tight with none of them wear hijab/ jilbaab and they take the mickey out of those that do. Especially the hijabies who check out boys and do dirty dancing at college.uni parties. Names like fundies, molvies, hypocrites and they cover coz they are ugly. If I wear the hijab then I will lose all my friends and have the piss taken out of me as well.
2. Harm my career
I worked my arse of to get where I am now in my career. I got a big salary, status and I enjoy the respect I get from colleagues and community. I can?t risk all that for a piece of cloth, besides I would look weird in board meetings and work parties in the pub and nightclubs. InshAllah when I get married in my 30s and have kids in my mid 30s, I?ll cover as I?m supposed to then.
3. My family are westernised
No one in my family wears hijab, even my grandmother wears bright coloured stylish clothes. If I were to wear the hijab I?d feel strange coz we have family gatherings where all the women dress in sarees and other revealing clothes and at our weddings we have a DJ playing bhangra music and we all dance to bollywood tunes, even my grandmother does a few funky moves on the dance floor.
4. Non-Muslims will stare
I?ve noticed since 7/7 that non-Muslims regard anyone who looks like a Muslim as a potential terrorist and by wearing the hijab I would attract attention. By wearing western clothes I get away with non-Muslims thinking I?m a Hindu, Sikh or moderate non-practicing Muslim. I?ve even had white guys trying to chat me up coz they think I?m up for it based on the tight western clothing that I wear.
5. I?m still young
I?m only 27 I?ve got my whole life ahead of me. I?m still enjoying life, u know what I mean, flirting with guys,clubbing,hanging out with mates in shopping centres. When I get married and have kids I?ll wear it then
6. I wont get attention from guys
I love the attention I get from guys and the way they look at me u know what I mean. I?m checking out 3 guys at the moment. Ones my age, ones older and one is older and married. I guess we all need a toy boy as well as a father figure /sugar daddy. I?ll choose one of them, although I?ve got a few my age from uni as back up.
After I?ve lived my life to the max and played the field and settled down then I might consider wearing it, even cover my face coz I don?t wanna meet any of my ex?s now do I ? Shoot 2 birds with 1 stone, appear pious and avoid hassle with former boyfriends , great idea, hijab. Jilbab and niqab.
7. I dress modestly
I wear loose modest clothes which cover and hide my curves, I know my hair is exposed but at least I?m more or less covered, better than a lot of girls/women who dress like tarts.
8. People will think I?m a fundamentalist
There is so much in the media nowadays about Muslims getting radicalised and rejecting western values and becoming fundamentalists. I just don?t want people to think that I am one also. Although I know that the west and its values are decadent and filthy, I don?t think it?s wise to express this. I pray and fast etc, I don?t need to wear Islamic clothing to be a good Muslim coz Islam is in my heart.
9. I worked hard to get this figure
After going to the gym and Pilates fro 6 months I?ve finally achieved the hourglass figure which men find attractive. I enjoy the attention I get and feel attractive. By wearing the hijab/jilbaab I would just be an ordinary woman in the eyes of men and only religious types with big beards would be interested in me.
10. When in Rome do as the Romans
We live in the UK,USA,France..etc and not in a Muslim country so why follow Islam rigidly? Also compared to non-Muslim women who practically walk around naked I dress and behave quite respectably.
Whenever I visit back home I wear different clothes coz I don?t want people to think bad of me and my family. One day in my 60?s after I have lived my life I will go to hajj and then become the perfect Muslimah, not now coz I believe ?when in Rome do as the Romans?.
If I missed any excuses out then add them here
This list has been compiled after research and is not intended to offend or insult anyone. After reading them it is possible to reach ones own conclusions.
1. Friends will reject me
The people I hang around with and really tight with none of them wear hijab/ jilbaab and they take the mickey out of those that do. Especially the hijabies who check out boys and do dirty dancing at college.uni parties. Names like fundies, molvies, hypocrites and they cover coz they are ugly. If I wear the hijab then I will lose all my friends and have the piss taken out of me as well.
2. Harm my career
I worked my arse of to get where I am now in my career. I got a big salary, status and I enjoy the respect I get from colleagues and community. I can?t risk all that for a piece of cloth, besides I would look weird in board meetings and work parties in the pub and nightclubs. InshAllah when I get married in my 30s and have kids in my mid 30s, I?ll cover as I?m supposed to then.
3. My family are westernised
No one in my family wears hijab, even my grandmother wears bright coloured stylish clothes. If I were to wear the hijab I?d feel strange coz we have family gatherings where all the women dress in sarees and other revealing clothes and at our weddings we have a DJ playing bhangra music and we all dance to bollywood tunes, even my grandmother does a few funky moves on the dance floor.
4. Non-Muslims will stare
I?ve noticed since 7/7 that non-Muslims regard anyone who looks like a Muslim as a potential terrorist and by wearing the hijab I would attract attention. By wearing western clothes I get away with non-Muslims thinking I?m a Hindu, Sikh or moderate non-practicing Muslim. I?ve even had white guys trying to chat me up coz they think I?m up for it based on the tight western clothing that I wear.
5. I?m still young
I?m only 27 I?ve got my whole life ahead of me. I?m still enjoying life, u know what I mean, flirting with guys,clubbing,hanging out with mates in shopping centres. When I get married and have kids I?ll wear it then
6. I wont get attention from guys
I love the attention I get from guys and the way they look at me u know what I mean. I?m checking out 3 guys at the moment. Ones my age, ones older and one is older and married. I guess we all need a toy boy as well as a father figure /sugar daddy. I?ll choose one of them, although I?ve got a few my age from uni as back up.
After I?ve lived my life to the max and played the field and settled down then I might consider wearing it, even cover my face coz I don?t wanna meet any of my ex?s now do I ? Shoot 2 birds with 1 stone, appear pious and avoid hassle with former boyfriends , great idea, hijab. Jilbab and niqab.
7. I dress modestly
I wear loose modest clothes which cover and hide my curves, I know my hair is exposed but at least I?m more or less covered, better than a lot of girls/women who dress like tarts.
8. People will think I?m a fundamentalist
There is so much in the media nowadays about Muslims getting radicalised and rejecting western values and becoming fundamentalists. I just don?t want people to think that I am one also. Although I know that the west and its values are decadent and filthy, I don?t think it?s wise to express this. I pray and fast etc, I don?t need to wear Islamic clothing to be a good Muslim coz Islam is in my heart.
9. I worked hard to get this figure
After going to the gym and Pilates fro 6 months I?ve finally achieved the hourglass figure which men find attractive. I enjoy the attention I get and feel attractive. By wearing the hijab/jilbaab I would just be an ordinary woman in the eyes of men and only religious types with big beards would be interested in me.
10. When in Rome do as the Romans
We live in the UK,USA,France..etc and not in a Muslim country so why follow Islam rigidly? Also compared to non-Muslim women who practically walk around naked I dress and behave quite respectably.
Whenever I visit back home I wear different clothes coz I don?t want people to think bad of me and my family. One day in my 60?s after I have lived my life I will go to hajj and then become the perfect Muslimah, not now coz I believe ?when in Rome do as the Romans?.
If I missed any excuses out then add them here
Comments on this journal
Isnt it true that qatar has the 7atta with brown and white and bahrain is black maybe?
the headresses are different throughout the gulf region - like the emiratees are different from the kuwaitis who are different from yemenis. also u might find the gray and the brown headresses in there, also in saudi u'll see those shades, but not among the upper class or the class conscious. those colors tend to be regional, like either, bedouins, villages, mountains etc.
But yes, with saudis there is always a level of standard you can't go below isn't there?...I used to be friends with many doctors where I lived origionally in London (Canada), they tend to be nice guys....many unfortunately with a bit of....hmm...arrogance, pride, not surwe what you might want to call it....but it was the same vibe from a few...but that aside, even those specific guys could be good guys.
interesting, didn't know it was red/white for palistinean's as well, i always assumed, well majority show the black/white? is it a preference or a regional thing?
Ali, you're a nerd, bas haik :D
the men in saudi (and the gulf) wear the headress cos of cultural tradition: the sun, heat and sand, it was protection against it all and evolved into a traditional head-dress. and now it's even a class thing, cos the style, pattern and color kinda show your social standing.
Fadi--you gotta be fashion conscious bro. Don't you see those hijabi girls that got the bling bling head cover? I wanna get one studded with rubies and diamonds.
just curious where this research is from -
i've seen girls who use hijab as a ticket to freedom - in other words, they can get away with anything and everything with their parents because they're wearing a scarf, their parent's are thinking, they can't be doing anything bad!!! yeah WHATEVER!!! why wear the scarf if u don't care??? it really looks bad for the girls who really wear it for the right purpose!!!
a hijab is for you only and noone else, only God can judge if it's the right reason and he knows. hope that helps with ur decision.