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Getting a divorce...I need help :(
Hello all, first of all let me adress my major problems, and then address my worries about being a divorced woman.
I met my soon to be ex online...first mistake...maybe. He was married before to a much older woman and never told me why they divorced. My family is a little naive and unfortunatley didnt do any research about his past. He was very great to me in the beginning, a little controling, but I didnt care, I was in love.
But I should have seen the signs, he was very very insulting and rude to his family. Never talked to them on the phone and hadnt seen them in years even though they live only a couple of states over. Anyway, before the wedding, I saw more signs of his verbal abuse, but i forgave him and we got married.
I was a virgin when we got married and as thankful that I didnt do anything haram in my past, it hurts me more than anything now that I gave that to him when he doesnt deserve it.
he has controlled me, abused me, physically, verbally, and emotionally. I dont even understand what is going on anymore, I have gave in and broke down and did everything he wanted. but he is still yelling and putting me down, I feel becacuse i let so many things go in the beginning he now feels like he can get away with anything...anyway I have had enough and I am leaving him but here is the problem:
we only have a muslim marriage...we didnt get a license in america....after we came back from our wedding he kept delaying it
i gave him money for his parents flights and our wedding, now he wont pay for them
he took back the jewellery he got me (all of it)
I left my job,my family and home, and gave up my life, futrue and virginity. he didnt give up anything, has used me and abused me....
I am broken and sad....i am going to leave but i feel like i lost everything and he got everything!
--- do i have any legal rights??'
as for being a divorced woman, i am depressed about that, i stayed a virgin for 25 years!!!! and now i am no longer....will anyone want me?? will i be judged and looked down on, is there still hope for true love? or am i tarnished...please help :(
I met my soon to be ex online...first mistake...maybe. He was married before to a much older woman and never told me why they divorced. My family is a little naive and unfortunatley didnt do any research about his past. He was very great to me in the beginning, a little controling, but I didnt care, I was in love.
But I should have seen the signs, he was very very insulting and rude to his family. Never talked to them on the phone and hadnt seen them in years even though they live only a couple of states over. Anyway, before the wedding, I saw more signs of his verbal abuse, but i forgave him and we got married.
I was a virgin when we got married and as thankful that I didnt do anything haram in my past, it hurts me more than anything now that I gave that to him when he doesnt deserve it.
he has controlled me, abused me, physically, verbally, and emotionally. I dont even understand what is going on anymore, I have gave in and broke down and did everything he wanted. but he is still yelling and putting me down, I feel becacuse i let so many things go in the beginning he now feels like he can get away with anything...anyway I have had enough and I am leaving him but here is the problem:
we only have a muslim marriage...we didnt get a license in america....after we came back from our wedding he kept delaying it
i gave him money for his parents flights and our wedding, now he wont pay for them
he took back the jewellery he got me (all of it)
I left my job,my family and home, and gave up my life, futrue and virginity. he didnt give up anything, has used me and abused me....
I am broken and sad....i am going to leave but i feel like i lost everything and he got everything!
--- do i have any legal rights??'
as for being a divorced woman, i am depressed about that, i stayed a virgin for 25 years!!!! and now i am no longer....will anyone want me?? will i be judged and looked down on, is there still hope for true love? or am i tarnished...please help :(