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Choosing the Right One
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P: The following article is worth sharing with ya all !
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Idris TAWFIQ is a British Muslim Writer who lives and works in Egypt. Before embracing Islam he was a Roman Catholic Priest. You can visit his website at idristawfiq.com
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>>> Has romance disappeared? :D
Well, it may have disappeared to a large extent in many Western societies where divorce and marriage breakdown figures are really high.
In such societies where having different boyfriends or girlfriends is part of the normal run of things, finding true love that will last is quite difficult. The figures speak for themselves. But what about the Muslim world?
It is true that the Western media outlets portray Muslim marriage in pretty much the same way as they portray anything else Muslim, isn't it? In other words, not in a very flattering light.
They talk about forced marriages or wife beating, forgetting that this is not the norm and it is not what Islam teaches. They don't show all the Muslim young men and women who have such a high regard for marriage and look forward in a romantic way to the day they will meet the right person, get married and settle down together for the rest of their lives.
Nor do they show all the Muslim husbands and wives who have been together for so long, actually growing in love and respect for each other the longer they are together. So, no, romance hasn't disappeared.
But how do you know when you have chosen the right person? If your parents have been happily married for years, how can yours be like that? There's lots of questions, but they're important ones.
If it is good looks we are going to base our choice upon, well, good looks often change with time. Perhaps this is why so many marriages in the West end in divorce.
If the marriage takes place because of a physical attraction, the one you are attracted to will not always look that way. They will get old or put on weight or get ill, no longer looking how they once used to.
What happens then, when the physical attraction has gone? *:
~ KNOWING THE RIGHT ONE
Young Muslims don't want to find themselves in a marriage with someone they find unattractive. In choosing a future partner, then, this is important. :)
But the Prophet knows, too, that physical attraction is not everything. The most important quality in a future spouse (the one you are to marry) is their piety. In other words, that they are good Muslims. If the two of you are good Muslims, faithful to prayer and determined to commit yourselves to each other and to the family you will raise together, then this marriage has a good chance of succeeding. It won't be based only on looks but will have a firmer base.
You might be so keen to marry that prayer seems the last thing on your mind, but ask Almighty Allah to send the right person into your life. And, when you have settled down together, continue to ask Allah to give you both the strength to love and support one another through good and bad times.
And so, when you are both old and grey, with grandchildren playing at your feet, you will be able to look back on a good marriage, a happy marriage, insha' Allah, and you will both be able to thank Allah that you did wait for the right one to come along! On that day, people will look at you and wish that they, too, could be blessed with such a happy marriage.
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IDRIS TAWFIQ is a British Muslim Writer who lives and works in Egypt. He has spent many years working with young people. He was head of religious education in different schools in the UK and, perhaps more remarkably, before embracing Islam he was a Roman Catholic Priest.
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SALAAM (A)
P: The following article is worth sharing with ya all !
Author:
Idris TAWFIQ is a British Muslim Writer who lives and works in Egypt. Before embracing Islam he was a Roman Catholic Priest. You can visit his website at idristawfiq.com
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
>>> Has romance disappeared? :D
Well, it may have disappeared to a large extent in many Western societies where divorce and marriage breakdown figures are really high.
In such societies where having different boyfriends or girlfriends is part of the normal run of things, finding true love that will last is quite difficult. The figures speak for themselves. But what about the Muslim world?
It is true that the Western media outlets portray Muslim marriage in pretty much the same way as they portray anything else Muslim, isn't it? In other words, not in a very flattering light.
They talk about forced marriages or wife beating, forgetting that this is not the norm and it is not what Islam teaches. They don't show all the Muslim young men and women who have such a high regard for marriage and look forward in a romantic way to the day they will meet the right person, get married and settle down together for the rest of their lives.
Nor do they show all the Muslim husbands and wives who have been together for so long, actually growing in love and respect for each other the longer they are together. So, no, romance hasn't disappeared.
But how do you know when you have chosen the right person? If your parents have been happily married for years, how can yours be like that? There's lots of questions, but they're important ones.
If it is good looks we are going to base our choice upon, well, good looks often change with time. Perhaps this is why so many marriages in the West end in divorce.
If the marriage takes place because of a physical attraction, the one you are attracted to will not always look that way. They will get old or put on weight or get ill, no longer looking how they once used to.
What happens then, when the physical attraction has gone? *:
~ KNOWING THE RIGHT ONE
Young Muslims don't want to find themselves in a marriage with someone they find unattractive. In choosing a future partner, then, this is important. :)
But the Prophet knows, too, that physical attraction is not everything. The most important quality in a future spouse (the one you are to marry) is their piety. In other words, that they are good Muslims. If the two of you are good Muslims, faithful to prayer and determined to commit yourselves to each other and to the family you will raise together, then this marriage has a good chance of succeeding. It won't be based only on looks but will have a firmer base.
You might be so keen to marry that prayer seems the last thing on your mind, but ask Almighty Allah to send the right person into your life. And, when you have settled down together, continue to ask Allah to give you both the strength to love and support one another through good and bad times.
And so, when you are both old and grey, with grandchildren playing at your feet, you will be able to look back on a good marriage, a happy marriage, insha' Allah, and you will both be able to thank Allah that you did wait for the right one to come along! On that day, people will look at you and wish that they, too, could be blessed with such a happy marriage.
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IDRIS TAWFIQ is a British Muslim Writer who lives and works in Egypt. He has spent many years working with young people. He was head of religious education in different schools in the UK and, perhaps more remarkably, before embracing Islam he was a Roman Catholic Priest.
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SALAAM (A)