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Content Of Character
By Chiragh-e-RaahAlways good to have some reference /reminder .....In light of some recent events, i felt it pertinent to restore this as a tool/aid to one and all :)
Peace be upon you,
The following hadith are narrated from the Prophet Muhammad, upon whom be peace. They are extracted from a book entitled 'The content of character: ethical sayings of the Prophet Muhammad' collected by Al-Amin Ali Mazrui translated by Hamza Yusuf. The text is much more comprehensive and if you like this extract, I suggest you buy the book.
"Love for humanity what you love for yourself"
Bukhari
"If your deeds delight you and your sins distress you, then you are a believer"
Diyya
"Consideration is from God, and haste is from the devil"
Baihaqi
"God is Beautiful and loves beauty"
Muslim
"Beware of suspicion for it is the most deceitful of thoughts
Bukhar]
"Keep God in mind wherever you are, follow a wrong with a right that offsets it, and treat people courteously"
Tirmidhi
"Amongst those not graced with God's glance on the day of judgment are a person who breaks the ties of kinship and an obnoxious neighbour"
Daylami
"After obligatory rights, the action most beloved to God is delighting other Muslims"
Tabarani
"Should you become eager to mention another's faults, remember your own"
Rafi
"Should you wish to act, ponder the consequences. If good, carry on, if bad, desist"
Ibn al-Mabarak
"Should any of you burp or sneeze, let him stifle the sound"
Baihaqi
"Should any of you yawn, let him place his hand over his mouth to avoid a yawner's howl. Even Satan derides the howling yawner"
Ibn Majah
"If a people's dignitary pays a visit, honour him"
Ibn Majah
"Since the successful are always envied, use discretion in fulfilling your needs"
Tabarani
"The most virtuous behavior is to engage those who sever relations, to give to those who withhold from you, and to forgive those who wrong you"
Tabarani
"The most rewarding visitation to the sick is the one that is appropriately brief"
Daylami
"May God have mercy on a person who spoke well and gained good, or kept quiet and avoided harm"
Ibn al-Mubarak
"What enables people to enter paradise more than anything is piety and good character"
Tirmidhi
"To acquire some useful knowledge is better than to perform a hundred devotional prayers voluntarily"
Ibn Majah
"Exchange gifts and mutual love arises; shake hands, and enmity will fall away"
Ibn Asakir
"Stay clean as best you can, for God established Islam upon cleanliness"
Raffi
"Seek our remedies for your ailments, o servants of God, for God has not created a disease without creating a corresponding cure"
Ahmad
"Paradise lies beneath the feet of mothers"
Ahmed
"An older brothers right over his younger siblings is similar to a father's right over his children"
Bayhaqi
"Set aside what causes you doubt for what does not"
Tirmidhi
"He who directs a person to a good deed is like the one who did the good deed; and certainly, God loves the act of helping the distressed"
Ibn Abu ad-Dunya
"A person has done enough wrong in his life if he simply repeats everything he hears"
Muslim
"If a Muslim consoles his brother during some crisis, God will adorn him in garments of grace on the day of judgment"
Ibn Majah
"God veils the faults of anyone who suppresses his anger"
Ibn Abi ad-Dunya
"Never express joy at your fellow man's afflictions, for God just might free him of them and afflict you"
Tabarani
"Do not do in private what you would conceal from others in public (i.e.bad habbits)"
Ibn Majah
"Anyone who separates a mother from her child is condemned"
Baihaqi
"Whoever does you a favor repay him, and if you are unable to, then at least pray for him"
Tabarani
"He who sins laughing enters hell crying"
Abu Nuaym
The book includes full biographies on these scholars who narrated the hadith, however as a guideline the period in which these scholars lived in are as follows:
Abu Nuaym: 4th century
Daylami: 5th century
Baihaqi: 4th century
Bukhari: 2nd century
Rafii: 6th century
Tabarani: 3rd century
Tirmidhi: 3rd century
Ibn al-Mubarak: 2nd century
Ibn al-Asakir: 6th century
Ibn Majah: 3rd century
Muslim: 3rd century
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Asking for forgiveness is one thing......but do not expect there to be a response clear or otherwise to that. You now feel you wronged her , fine, so seek peace or ease of your conscience with your maker, which is what we all have to do when we realize our errors/faut pas.
To be honest to you i have fallen for someone on naseeb already ,and do love her like anything,if god be willing we will come together,no names.
There is no 'satisfaction' to be gained for anyone. It is matter of making best of the fallout and circumstances, which in this instance means (by her response) BW is not interested in interacting or associating with you ie you are the past. I therefore suggest you accept that. Am sorry, if you feel i am being harsh, but am trying to help /advise best i can.
At least you know that ur apology/comments have been read, that should be ample in itself, considering the situations that occured.
What is done is done, best for all concerned to just move one. Events happen in our lives for a reason. We all need to look for solutions within ourselves first and foremost and ofc turn to Allah(swt) for guidance beit via Zikhr, Quran, namaz etc....
please try to forget all as the act of a baighiraat man with no shame or honor,a picture of humiliation,i really feel worthless now, i wish i could undo what i did,try to forgive me or may be advise a solution. penitent naurozkhayal
youre comments and your apologies have been noted.
Needless to say I dont want people like you in my life.. and it would be helpful if you stay away as well.
Good luck with everything.
As for BW, You have stated your remorse, apology etc here ....so, i am sure once the dust settles a bit (ie i think it is early days etc) she may well take time to read it etc.
The events of past few weeks have taken toll on many of us, in different ways.
My personal advice is to leave it at that for the moment, you have stated your piece, i believe matters are too raw, fresh etc at the moment.
allah(swt) sees, hears all etc too and knows each person's neeyut and am sure what is right for all concerned will ultimately happen. We all need to be more concerned with seeking redemption from our maker first and foremost. Writing your apology etc is most likely a major step all round.
I take full responsibility for the badtameezee and bedlam that i created,i am going through the worst period of my life and consequently it has gotten into my head.But believe me i am a conscious individual who tries to better himself whenever he can .I crossed the line big time and am very sorry and sad because of it,please try to sort it out if you kindly can.
I find black widow to be a very gifted girl who never gives up ,she is fired up with passion in whatever she does or believes in.She has all the attributes of a decent well bred girl .What ever i said about her looks was bakwaas ,she is an attractive woman by any standard eastern or western . In my conversations with her i found her to be a highly virtuous girl who was very clear about where to stop me.
To sum it up she has not done anything wrong during the impasse,it was was me who needs to be taken to the task and punished,please ask her to forgive me ,because finally i am trying to do all that she asked for in my shame.
I just read this journal of yours before writing this with a very heavy heart.i hope god forgives me on this count.
with regard s.................................. ..........naurozkhayal
Black widow i apologize to you from the bottom of my heart with all the sincerity i have.My attitude towards you was totally absurd and uncalled for,in a spate of anger i said a lot to you which didn't mean anything.I hereby concede to you on all your charges against me and would feel better if you go on a ride of denunciation addressed towards me.That day i was a little drunk and was under a lot of stress because some people had been attacking me for a period of 5 days.You were the only person whose criticism was not driven by a personal agenda ,and i have realized it now.
You had to the potential to fix me that day,yet you let me walk away and because of this you have earned my deepest respect.You are a very well meaning person in reality and are a straight shooter,i am feeling awful since that unfortunate night,naseeb looks like a ghost town now,and i feel it has a lot to do with my failing.
I know you try to correct the foibles of your friends and want them to accomplish in their lives that they can because you are an achiever yourself,you are a wonderful daughter and a caring sister for your siblings.An executive par excellence and an achiever.Your stand in the debacle was highly moral and was based upon the essential righteousness of your being,and i give you all the credit for it.
I behaved like a pagal kutta with you infact a kutta has a lot of honour,yet you let it slide and gave me a wide birth to buzz off,thank you.What ever i said about you in a inebriated state was bull,because i was not myself,i was possessed at that time by the devil.In future i will be careful although this is the first time in my life that i have behaved like this with a girl.
In the end i will again seek your forgiveness ,i behaved like a jerk but i am repentant ,and will try to learn a lesson from this.Forgiving is an attribute of god almighty it cleanses the heart of both the parties the forgiver and the forgived.
with regards and boundless shame.........................nauro z khayal
Yes Nauroz....best thing is to always move forward etc. but not ofc forgetting to take any lessons /experiences on board. I have always stated i have no angst with /against you , that still stands - albeit it did get rather frustrating at times. as i said/wrote on WuDs journal...you are all welcome to participate /comment on my journals/broadcasts if you wish to ofc. Hope your mother is on the road to recovery from her operation.
